Doing The Work from Naples Integrated Recovery

In this episode, Brian sits down with Terry P, a connection from early sobriety during the pandemic when both were trying to find something that actually worked. What started as a small Zoom meeting with four guys grew into a global recovery community with over 10,000 people passing through—driven by Terry’s approach of making recovery something people want to be part of instead of something they endure.
They break down why so many people walk into meetings and feel disconnected, what separates “checking a box” from actually building a sober life, and how energy, structure, and community change the experience. The conversation moves into the long version of the Serenity Prayer and why ideas like “taking the world as it is” and being “reasonably happy” are directly applicable to anxiety, control, and everyday mental health.
They also unpack common relapse patterns like “I stopped” and “I’ve got this,” why there’s no graduating from the steps, what step work looks like years into sobriety, and the daily structure that actually keeps someone sober. The episode closes with a grounded breakdown of the Promises of recovery—not as theory, but as outcomes that show up through consistent action.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.comWant to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

Addiction doesn’t stay contained in one person. It reorganizes entire families around survival, silence, control, and roles that outlive their usefulness. This episode breaks down why sobriety often destabilizes relationships, how rescuing and financial over-helping keep systems stuck, and why recovery requires differentiation, boundaries, and tolerating discomfort without control.
If things feel harder after the drinking stops, this explains why. Clear, direct discussion of enabling, money, trust rebuilding, and how families move from chaos management to adult functioning without pretending the past didn’t happen.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.comWant to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

Catching patterns in real time sounds simple until you’re inside one that’s producing results. This episode breaks down how high performance, productivity, and “everything working” can hide a structure that drains you and keeps you from being present in your own life. Using a real clinical schedule and workload as the backdrop, it tracks how burnout, reduced presence, and constant output turn into fatigue quietly—and why awareness alone doesn’t change behavior.
The focus shifts to self-correction: recognizing the signal, interrupting the pattern, and making changes before things collapse. This episode walks through overwork, identity tied to performance, nervous system overload, and the decision to change direction without waiting for certainty. It’s about seeing where your current structure leads—and choosing to adjust anyway.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.comWant to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com
 

Losing everything forces a hard reset. This episode breaks down what happens psychologically when structure disappears and why the instinct to “get back to normal” keeps people stuck. You’ll hear how real change works in practice—no going back, only rebuilding—and why disrupted routines, lost momentum, and unexpected setbacks all run on the same mechanism.
We also get into the difference between reacting and adapting, why starting over feels heavier the second time, and the role of self-trust when things don’t go according to plan. If you’re dealing with burnout, relapse, life transitions, or rebuilding after loss, this is a direct look at how to move forward without waiting to feel ready.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.comWant to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

This episode breaks down a repeatable pattern that shows up in work, recovery, relationships, and therapy: chasing the next thing, avoiding what feels difficult, and missing the structure that keeps recreating the same loop. I walk through how this shows up in my own life and in the people I work with every week, especially when insight is present but behavior stays the same.
The focus here is on what actually keeps people stuck: tying relief to the next condition, speeding everything up to avoid discomfort, and assuming the next version will finally land differently. This episode looks at how those patterns drive overwork, pressure, dissatisfaction, and emotional exhaustion, and what starts to change when you catch the loop early enough to do something different in real time.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.comWant to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

People-pleasing is rarely just about being nice. It’s often rooted in fear of conflict, fear of rejection, and early experiences where approval felt tied to safety. This episode breaks down why insight alone doesn’t stop people-pleasing, why resentment builds after saying yes too quickly, and how trauma shapes the urge to over-function in relationships.
You’ll hear how people-pleasing operates in real time, what it protects against, and why pushing yourself to “just set boundaries” usually backfires. The focus stays practical: how internal pressure shifts, how urgency softens, and what actually changes when people-pleasing no longer runs automatically.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com Want to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

Why you can’t let go—even when you know better. This episode breaks down why unstable relationships feel so intense, how attachment and stress work together, and why feeling strongly connected doesn’t mean a relationship is actually stable or safe.
You’ll hear what this looks like in real relationships, why insight alone doesn’t change the pattern, and how to recognize the difference between activation and stability so you can start making different moves in the moment.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.comWant to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegrrecovery.com

This episode features a recorded NA speaker meeting from Lindsey, offering a direct account of addiction, consequences, and the shift into recovery. She walks through the patterns that kept her stuck, what led to change, and how sobriety actually plays out day to day. The focus stays on lived experience—how thinking shifts, how responsibility shows up, and what it takes to keep going.
The meeting format keeps it grounded and honest, highlighting accountability, repetition, and community in long-term recovery. This is a clear look at what staying sober requires beyond the initial decision.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.comWant to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com 
 
 
 

This episode opens up what one year sober actually looks like in real life—no cleanup, no inspirational arc, no pretending things are resolved. It’s a conversation with someone still in it. Brian sits down with his sister to walk through the internal side of recovery after marijuana-related mental health disruption, including rebuilding trust in your own mind, managing relapse thoughts, and adjusting to an identity that no longer includes substance use. The focus stays grounded in daily experience: what still feels unstable, what improved, and what continues to take effort.
The episode moves through the gap between expectations and reality. Sobriety didn’t fix everything. Some patterns stayed, some relationships shifted, and some days still feel heavy. This conversation strips away recovery clichés and replaces them with a more accurate picture of early sobriety—where agency is developing, thinking patterns still need active management, and progress shows up in how someone handles a bad day, not in how they describe a milestone. This is a clear depiction of year one without turning it into a lesson or a success story.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.comWant to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com

This episode breaks down why your body is making decisions before your mind ever gets involved — and why insight alone doesn’t stop reactive patterns in relationships, conflict, or stress. Using Polyvagal Theory as a practical framework, it explains how nervous system states drive behavior under pressure, why people escalate, shut down, or dissociate without meaning to, and how meaning-making often happens after the reaction. The focus is on accuracy, not excuses: understanding how state precedes story, and why trying to “communicate better” fails when physiology isn’t online.
The episode also tackles responsibility head-on. It shows where agency actually lives once the nervous system has shifted, why repair is physiological before it’s verbal, and how co-regulation either restores safety or escalates threat without anyone intending it. Rather than offering calming tricks or motivational language, it lays out what “doing the work” really means: regulating before reacting, repairing without justification, holding boundaries without contempt, and choosing stability over vindication.
Check out the website for articles published weekly: www.naplesintegratedrecovery.com
Want to work together? I see psychotherapy clients in Florida:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/brian-granneman-naples-fl/1153470
I also offer accountability, coaching, and sober companion services. Send an email: brian@naplesintegratedrecovery.com